I hate to come at people with "shoulds" but I think this one is important for us all to be reminded of on occasion:
**Healthy relationships should be relatively easy.**
It should not feel like a ton of work all of the time. It should not be like pulling teeth to effectively communicate. You should not have to fight to be heard. There will probably be rough patches, but the overarching nature of the relationship should be that it is your soft place to land at the end of a hard day. It should not be the hard part.